An Insider’s Letter About Michael Jackson’s Women. Part 2. CHECKING IT UP WITH FRANK CASCIO’S HELP
We are still discussing a reader’s letter published in the National Enquirer on June 12, 2004. The goal is to find out whether it was written by a former Michael’s employee, who knew all secrets about his “thoroughly heterosexual” love life or by a fan who was simply inventing things about the idol.
The author of the letter states that it was June Chandler, and not her son Jordan, who was involved with Michael in 1993 case and this is why we have our own specific interest about this letter.
It says that Jordan got jealous of his mother and Michael’s attention to her. Previously we also noticed some signs pointing in this direction and if the letter is proven authentic the author’s statement about June Chandler will turn for us into a precious gem to crown all the work done in this blog by now.
The good thing about the letter is that the author is providing details only an insider could know. He says that Michael was neither gay, nor pedophile, but was thoroughly heterosexual and the word “thorough” here is what I like most as it leaves no space for any other types of sexuality except Michael’s love of women.
For the circumstances of publishing the letter and its details already proven to be correct please see this post , however if you don’t want to run back and forth between the two posts here is the letter again for your convenience:
Nor gay or phedofile [sic]
You people are so gullible! I love it, it’s hilarious.
Anybody who genuinely knows Michael (which is none of you), knows that Michael is straight – almost to a fault of himself, considering that he doesn’t look like the most masculine of brothas. You’re so quick to believe Scott, which is hysterical because if you knew their history, you’d know how weirded out Michael was by Scott’s advances. Michael’s not overtly homophobic, but he is old school and isn’t completely comfortable with it. However, given the nature of his profession, he has tried his best to be accepting and because he tries to be a good Christian, he does not judge, he leaves that to God. He still gets incredibly uncomfortable by advances by anything remotely male….which brings us to Scott. Scott made a pass at Michael. Michael ignored it, initially. The second time, Michael told him to back the #### off (in more polite language, of course…Michael was still quite young and sweet and innocent back in the ’80s, if a dude tried something similar NOW, he might get punched in the face). They haven’t spoken since then. The closest he ever got to Michael after about ’84 was that his boyfriend was friends with Priscilla Presley’s makeup artist. The two haven’t spoken since Scott tried to get all up on Mikey.
One may ask themselves, if his motive for coming forward now was out of some sort of moral obligation and a desire to crush MJ’s “strategy” of declaring himself heterosexual, why didn’t he come forward in 1993? Maids, cooks, ex-guards, everybody and their momma was coming forward with “claims,” why not then? Or, if the motivation behind this is genuine concern for the welfare of children and not money, why not go to the police with the things you’ve seen (i.e. Scott claiming to have seen child porn on Michael’s nightstand)?
Simple, none of it happened and Scott was still livin’ the life with all of Liberace’s dough. Poverty brings forth all sorts of “memories.” Isn’t it convenient that just as soon as his cash stash is running dry, he tells the world he had sex with Michael Jackson?
Let me break this down for you people and pay attention because I don’t like doing it more than once. Michael Jackson is thoroughly heterosexual. He does not like men. He does not like boys. He likes women over the age of 18. Shiiiiit, even before he was 18, he liked women well over the age of 18. It’s no secret within certain circles that Diana Ross was his first. The poor guy thought he was going to marry her but she fucked him over with Gene Simmons and Arne Naess. He was pretty naive back then, so he chose not to see the obvious. Then he was celibate for about 3 years, before becoming involved with a pretty, blond employee of his, an actress from a popular ’80s/early ’90s sitcom, a singer that nobody cares about anymore but was the sh.it back in the day, some groupie/secretary, June Chandler (the mother of punk bitch Jordan who got jealous of mommy’s relationship with Michael) and, of course, Lisa Marie. Lisa Marie was the only one he allowed himself to become more than just sexually involved with since Diana, that boy was sprung. Lisa Marie, however, led him to believe they would have a family of their own, but stayed on the pill anyway because even if she said she was a rebel, the little bitch didn’t want mommy dearest to get mad at her for having a lil black child. Mike found the pills, split, messed around with a couple of other women with the goal of getting one pregnant just to hurt Lisa (he can be an as.shole sometimes, true) and eventually knocked up Debbie, which, (if I didn’t love and adore his children and think think they saved his life) I would say was probably one of the biggest mistakes of his life. He was never faithful to Debbie after they married, never even wanted to marry her but Mike doesn’t like to break his mother’s heart. He and Lisa continued having sex until 1999 (they weren’t “together,” they were just fucking), until he met his third child’s mother, fell very much in love with her, but he is his father’s son, so he wasn’t entirely faithful to her, which is why they split up shortly after she found out she was pregnant. From that time, up until right before these new bullshit allegations broke, he was pretty much a dog. No attachment, just sex. He has no time to get attached to somebody and then depressed again after they part ways now that he has his children. I doubt he has time for anybody other than his children and his lawyers now.
There, you have it. Take it or leave it, but it’s the truth. Mike would hate me for putting his business out here like this, but at least it’s accurate, unlike all of the other trash going around now. He ain’t my boss anymore, so he’s just going to have to put up with it.
Summary: Scott is full of s.hit, Michael isn’t gay and he sho’ as h.ell ain’t a pedophile.
1. He’s weird, he’s rich, he’s black and he never bows down to anybody. He doesn’t fit any stereotypes of what a black man “should” be, which makes people uncomfortable and enables them to believe anything sinister about him. If you need proof of that, just look no further than this very message board.
2. I think I outlined most of the girlfriends for you, if you think hard enough you could probably figure out names, but it’s not my job to spoon feed this to you. He kept Diana a secret because that’s what the hussy wanted and by the time he got his sh.it together enough to move on and get with other women, he was so obsessed with his privacy that he didn’t want the public to know anything about him that didn’t have to do with music or business (and rightfully so, everything he does is misconstrued, manipulated and taken out of context).
3. Can’t help you there, that’s something you don’t really discuss with Michael. All I can say is that it got more out of hand after he and Diana were officially no more. Nobody around him ever condoned it, I know I certainly didn’t. In all fairness to the kid, most of it is exaggerated. He’s had a lot, but to a fairly localized area, none of this crazy cheekbone, eyebrow, eyelid, forehead stuff. But what does plastic surgery have to do with whether or not he’s a pedophile or a homosexual? Nothing. He’s got a good heart, I don’t give two sh.its about his face.
I’m about through here, maybe a repeat performance or two, but probably not. Just keep all I’ve said in mind before you jump to conclusions about Mike.
This post took place on June 12, 2004
Up till now only one episode of the letter has been checked up. It concerned Lisa-Marie and the surprising news that Michael was involved with Debbie and made her pregnant even when he was still married to Lisa.
This seems to be a closely guarded secret of Lisa-Marie and we even know why. For the royal princess she really is it was a complete insult to find that her husband was having a baby by another woman while he was still married to her. And what a woman too! Some nurse who was ten years her older! Not that she is not pretty but the whole thing is still totally unimaginable…
Let me refresh your memory about the circumstances and time of a major split between Michael and Lisa-Marie.
It must have taken place at the end of July 1995. According to the author of the letter Michael found Lisa’s birth-control pills, realized that she had been cheating on him for a year, promising to give him a child and never allowing it to happen, and broke away from her for the next 6 weeks.
This statement from a mysterious letter perfectly fits in with a forced reconciliation Michael and Lisa-Marie had at the MTV Video Music Awards ceremony on September 7, 1995 where they tried to present a picture of them still being together, but looked terribly tense and even unhappy with each other.
It was a publicity event the importance of which none of them could overestimate, and Lisa-Marie was still in hope to bring Michael back, however a lot of trouble going on between them was noticeable and was even painful to watch.
This sight makes a decided difference from the great picture of them together at the previous 1994 MTV ceremony where they kissed on stage and where only the dumbest did not notice that it was all about genuine tenderness and love. True that there was much publicity around it too, but this was the only way Michael could ever live his life – I mean the necessity to live with millions of eyes upon himself and those close to him.
Many people fell then for the media nonsense about that “weird” kiss, while the rest saw behind it much genuine love and attraction between them and frankly, this kiss was no more weird than the kiss of the royalty on the balcony of their palace which everyone likes and eagerly expects.
Getting back to 1995 let me say that our insider told us that it was around the time of that ceremony that Michael was already “messing around” with “a couple of other women” with the idea to have a baby by them and “just to hurt Lisa” as the insider said. He was close to forty and could not wait, which was perfectly true. It is only now that I understand how terribly helpless men are in this respect (they can’t do it on their own, you know):
When Lisa didn’t become immediately pregnant, he expressed his disappointment. ‘I thought we’d be expecting within a couple of weeks of making love,’ he said. ‘Lisa says it takes time, but I don’t have time. I want it to happen now. I want children so badly.’
The woman to finally make Michael the precious gift was Debbie Rowe who had her first pregnancy in December 1995 or while Lisa and Michael were still officially married (and absolutely not several months after Michael’s separation from Lisa-Marie as the official tale has it).
This news should have been an awful blow to Lisa, so her announcement to Michael exactly in December 1995 that she “was out” perfectly fits into the timeline and is no surprise to us at all. He didn’t object to the idea of a divorce and even asked her to leave the hospital where he was being treated after that notable collapse. The separation led to an official divorce filed by LMP on January 18, 1996 and was finalized several months later.
The resolution we had over the episode of a split between Michael and Lisa-Marie was that the facts provided by the author of the letter were completely novel, were impossible to know by a fan and were correct as they accurately fit the timeline of the events we already know of. The story even created a much better understanding of the real drama taking place in the life of Michael and Lisa Marie.
All of it is conclusive evidence that the person who told us of these valuable details was a real insider, who was close to Michael and knew the situation in much detail.Let me also add that despite the divorce Michael was crazy about Lisa-Marie as he said it himself in a note to her which was recently auctioned and then pulled out from sale at Lisa’s request.
The mysterious insider agreed with the crazy love diagnosis and also shook his head in compassion for Michael saying that “the boy was sprung” (syn. infatuated, unable to live without her, etc.) which is why he kept dating her for the next four years after their separation.
From the way the author is writing about Michael he sounds like a man older than Michael, someone like a father figure to him, and also someone who knew Michael inside out and was unlikely to be fooled by his prank-like versions presented to other people.
I imagine this person to be like a man who stayed by Michael’s side in his “Who is it” video, took care of him, saw him off to the helicopter to fly away from some disastrous love affair and dealt with the woman who returned too late to only find that Michael was already off.
If you compare this man with other good and no less close friends of Michael you will see the big difference between them. Michael’s friend Frank Cascio also wrote his memories of Michael and covered some of his personal life, but he was much younger than Michael as their age difference was more than 20 years:
FRANK CASCIO: I was 4 years old. When I was 4, I was — my father says, I`m going to bring you to work with me, and I`m going to introduce you to a friend of mine. And his name is Michael Jackson. So, he takes us to — he takes me to the hotel.
And we`re greeted by a gentleman by the name of Bill Bray. And he brings us into the room and says, I`d like to introduce you to Michael Jackson. And Michael puts out his hand and goes, “Hi, I`m Michael.” I say, hi, I`m Frank.
PINSKY: And Michael was how old at the time?
CASCIO: Gee, I don`t even know. I think 27.
(From Cascio on Dr. Drew – http://lisamarieandmichael.foroactivos.net/t767-frank-cascio-about-michael-jackson)
Frank was like a son to Michael and children were always spared by Michael when it came to details of adult life. Therefore when his unhappy marriages took place Michael didn’t spell out to Frank the complex, intricate and often discouraging reasons for his decisions concerning women. As for Lisa Marie for example, Michael chose to present to Frank the news of his marriage and divorce from her in a totally ridiculous manner.
It started with him telling the 14-year old Frank that Prince Al-Waleed bin Talal liked to do business with family men, and so he wanted Michael, as his partner, to be married, and this is why Michael had married Lisa Marie Presley. This is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard – but what else could he say to a teenager who used to give Michael Christmas gag gifts of garbage or a yearly supply of tampons, accompanied by unappetizing scraps of a family Christmas dinner?
Add to their usual pranky style the fact that Frank was still too young to understand the intricacies of Michael’s relations with women in order to be able to coherently explain them to us twenty years later, and you will see that no way could Michael tell him the details of his love life as they were, especially since Michael was unable to understand much of what was going on himself at the time.
This makes it clear that Frank’s memories of Michael’s affairs with women should be taken with a grain of salt as we never know when Michael was making a fool of himself and when he was telling the real truth to his younger friend.
The ridiculous stories Michael told Frank seem to me his way of reassuring him that their friendship would remain strong as ever and he would not allow any woman to come and ruin their comradeship and the great fun they used to have together.
Michael explained to Frank his family life with Lisa-Marie with a bravado more characteristic of a teenager than a grown-up man. I think that to his younger pal Michael didn’t even want to confess his infatuation with Lisa-Marie (or any woman at all), and so for Frank he reserved a nonchalant version that he “didn’t care really that much”.
This Michael’s trait of being different with different people and even playing up to these people’s expectations of him should never be underestimated by us when we read what others say about Michael.
He rarely disclosed himself to anyone at all, and if you were close to him but were unable to see the truth with your own eyes he evidently considered it more of your problem than his. If you understood him even without talking much to him it was perfect, but if you didn’t understand it properly it was okay for him too – he was not going to explain anyway.
Each of his associates was looking at Michael’s life from his own tower and perspective only, and this is how all those different reports about Michael’s life came into being. As to our insider’s view it seems to me that his perception of Michael was probably the closest we’ve ever heard of to the truth of the matter.
Below you will find an excerpt from Frank Cascio’s book describing Michael’s views on his marriage to Lisa-Marie.
It is again hilarious to read that Michael chose to explain the divorce from Lisa-Marie by her jealousy of Frank’s family. Even considering that this version could be partially true – Lisa was indeed jealous of everyone around Michael – saying that this was one of the main reasons for the divorce was definitely a joke.
However the story about Michael’s arguments with Lisa and the manner in which he tried to pacify Lisa-Marie’s anger seems interesting to me. It shows that Michael didn’t want to fight and tried to be solve his differences with Lisa in unconventional ways. I don’t know what to make of Michael’s applause to Lisa’s fury – probably it was not too bad a reaction after all, but to Frank it didn’t seem to be a sensible and mature way to deal with the problem. On the other hand we don’t know how bad Lisa Marie could indeed be with her husbands. Nicolas Cage used to say about her:
- “Lisa is such a sour-puss in the morning. ‘She’s so negative it brings me down and ruins my morning.’
Frank describes Lisa’s and Michael’s relations as follows:
“…it wasn’t hard to see the issues he’d brought to the marriage, and the trouble he had being a husband. And there was also the fact that Michael did not like confrontation. I remember the day when he began talking about staying in Lisa’s L.A. apartment with her and her children.
“She likes to fight,” he said. “When she complains, I start clapping my hands and smiling.” There wasn’t a hint of self awareness in his tone, a sense that perhaps he could have handled the situation more maturely. If anything, he sounded pleased with his reaction.
“Does that work?” I asked.
“Well, it makes her stop, and then I ask her if she’s done arguing.”
Not exactly dialogue a couples’ counselor would condone. I had a sense that things weren’t going very well.”
…”When they split up at the end of 1995, Michael claimed that one of the main reasons was that Lisa was jealous of us (she called us the “Jersey family”) and the relationship he had with us. He preferred spending time with us to spending it with her. Personally, I had seen no evidence of this, and I don’t believe my family had very much to do with the failure of the marriage, but I’m sure Lisa had been hoping to build a life with Michael. And I can certainly imagine that this life didn’t include a family from New Jersey. Michael shifted some of the responsibility onto my family—perhaps as a way of telling us how important we were, or maybe to convince himself that Lisa was asking him to make impossible sacrifices—but I believe we were only part of the greater routine of his life that he was unwilling to change.
There was also the issue of children. Ambivalent as he may have been about having a serious relationship with a woman, there was one thing Michael was sure about: he longed to be a father. At one point he had wanted to adopt a child from Romania with Lisa, but she didn’t like the idea. Then he wanted to have a child with her, but she was not ready.
Overall, although they did love and have a tremendous amount of respect for each other, I don’t think they were ever emotionally connected enough to sustain a long-term marriage. Michael inhabited his own world and had little desire to leave or adjust it. He didn’t know how to be in a relationship, and he wasn’t willing to learn. He only knew what he knew. Marriage, with its sharing, conflicts, and compromises, just didn’t work for him. When he and Lisa split, he seemed to me to be a little sad, but not entirely heartbroken. That, more than anything else, told me they were better off without each other.”
No, they were not better off without each other, and what Frank saw in Michael as a sign of relief after his marriage was over was actually Michael’s enthusiasm and happiness at anticipating a child at last.
But Frank is absolutely right in saying that Michael had no idea how to be in a relationship – he simply never had a chance to learn how to, as what he saw in his own family was a terrible dysfunction in its grossest of forms. He didn’t want to repeat that pattern, but he didn’t know any other either, and hence all that clapping of his hands in order to silence his wife’s complaints.
When Lisa-Marie spoke to Oprah in October 2010 she finally agreed that Michael had tried hard to make their marriage work. It was done in his own specific way, but now she sees that he did give their marriage a good shot. She simply didn’t understand or appreciate his efforts at the time, and was probably not willing too, as she also had issues of her own.
She was also guilty of doing things to hurt him. For example, she went on vacation, taking her first husband Danny to accompany her (you can’t imagine what Gutierrez made of it in his book – he was like “she had sex only with her former husband while MJ spent time with boys”).
Now it turns out that Michael was very uncomfortable about that situation and asked her why she was doing it. All Lisa-Marie can say now to explain it is that Danny was still a big part of her life then. She was still coping with the thought that she had hurt Danny by leaving him for Michael, however it never occurred to her that she was hurting Michael that way too. Well, all this is the usual pain men and women inflict on each other when they are immature, confused, have some problems still unresolved with others … and when they are very much in love with each other.
If you want you can watch Lisa-Marie’s full interview with Orpah on September 2010:
Lisa Marie here is only trying to understand what she did right, and what she did wrong and why. Please remember that she is still not completely open about her relations with Michael and on many occasions is confused by what others say about him (for example, “boys”), as all she says in reply was something in between “she doesn’t know” and “she never saw anything herself” . No, dear me, she knows everything all right and if she hadn’t been sure of Michael’s innocence she would have never subjected her own children to any danger. Hopefully one day she will finally understand it.
What is especially notable about her interview with Oprah is that though Oprah claims that Lisa Marie is opening up to her, Lisa once again withholds information that she lost Michael to her rival Debbie while she was still married to him.
The article below also imposes on us the idea that Debbie’s first pregnancy came “months after they divorced”, which is a big stretch of the truth. The second pregnancy (ending in Prince’s birth) did indeed come in May 1996, but the first one started half a year earlier, in December 1995 and ended in a miscarriage three months later, in March 1996.
It is simply unpleasant for Lisa-Marie to talk about it which I perfectly understand, but for the purpose of verifying the authenticity of the insider’s letter the truth still needs to be stated – whether Michael did or didn’t want to hurt Lisa the truth is that she did not leave Michael of her free will. She was forced to do it due to the circumstances she created with her own hands by refusing to give Michael his children and mockingly suggesting that Debby should do it instead of her.
So what Lisa-Marie was making fun of in October 1995 two months later became the reality she had to accept:
Presley Hurt By Rowe Baby Taunts
22 October 2010
LISA MARIE PRESLEY and MICHAEL JACKSON’s 18-month marriage in the mid-1990s started to crumble when the King of Pop told her his friend DEBBIE ROWE had offered to have children with him.
The rocker admits she was far from shocked when her then-ex announced his new wife Rowe was carrying his first child months after he divorced Presley – because he used to taunt her with the idea while they were married.
In a revealing TV interview with Oprah Winfrey, Presley says, “I knew it was a bit of a retaliatory act on his part because I didn’t have a baby and I know that she was there the whole time telling him she would do it. He would tell me… ‘If you’re not gonna do it, Debbie says she’ll do it.’
“I was like, ‘What is that? Not gonna entice me,’ so we would get into arguments because that really wasn’t how to handle it – but that’s how he knew how to handle it.”
And Presley admits those arguments were the beginning of the end for the marriage: “I understand him so well now but, at that time, I was hurt and I did things that hurt him.”
She reveals that her closeness with her former husband Danny Keogh, who she had two children with, was a big issue for Jackson.
Presley explains, “I was very torn because I broke up my family and I left my husband for Michael… While I was with Michael I was still trying to process what I had done… I felt, ‘How could I have done that to somebody…?’
“Danny was still very much part of my life and Michael didn’t know what to do with that sometimes and that made him uncomfortable. I would take a vacation and Danny would go and Michael would get upset … and then he would disappear for a couple of weeks and I couldn’t find him.
“We hit rough waters and we would argue – three-day arguments sometimes, taking a break to eat and sleep. I’d have to say that I really admire that he really gave it (our marriage) a good shot. I didn’t appreciate it then and I wish I did.”
Okay, so much for their divorce.
Quote 2 from the letter:
- “…he eventually knocked up Debbie, which, (if I didn’t love and adore his children and think they saved his life) I would say was probably one of the biggest mistakes of his life. He was never faithful to Debbie after they married, never even wanted to marry her but Mike doesn’t like to break his mother’s heart. He and Lisa continued having sex until 1999 (they weren’t “together,” they were just f***ing), until he met his third child’s mother”
Now that we have some proof that the author was a true insider I am curious to know why he said that Michael’s involvement with Debbie was “probably one of the biggest mistakes of his life”. The only explanation I can find is that Michael probably regretted the wreck of his marriage with Lisa-Marie and wanted her back as much as she wanted him, however his marriage to Debbie was now a stumbling block to his reunion with the first wife.
Well, mistake or no mistake, but it gave Michael what he always longed for – he became a father and this saved his life, as the author of the letter tells us (and we know it ourselves).
Another fact – the one that already in 2004 the author of the letter knew that Michael had been dating Lisa-Marie after the divorce until the year 1999 – is one more great proof that this person really knew what he was writing about.
The intimate relationship between LMP and MJ after the divorce was kept a secret for a long time and was disclosed only after Michael’s death, by Schmuley Boteach’s tapes and then by Lisa-Marie herself when she spoke to Oprah in 2010.
Over there Lisa frankly admitted that she followed Michael all over the world for four years after their divorce in 1996, which takes us to the end of 1999 - and this is exactly the time mentioned by the author of the letter many years before Lisa disclosed it.
Who else could know such details? Only an insider and a very knowledgeable one at that.
In an October 2010 interview with talk-show host Oprah Winfrey, Lisa Marie told Oprah that she and Michael Jackson spent the four years following their divorce together, on and off, in an attempt to reconcile and said that she had traveled to different parts of the world in order to be with him.
Let us face the reality. No fan could ever know that Lisa-Marie and Michael were dating each other until the year 1999 and with so much certainty and precision too. The media did note that Lisa Marie and Michael appeared together in various parts of the world, but no one knew anything for sure and everyone was making guesses only. In fact the media sounded incredulous of what they saw and presented it more like a curious urban myth rather than a fact.
This huge difference – even in the way this news is presented – shows that the author of the letter was not only an insider, but someone who knew Michael’s personal secrets really well. And this fact makes the next quote from the letter all the more intriguing to us:
Quote 3 from the letter:
- “He and Lisa continued having sex until 1999 (they weren’t “together,” they were just f***ing), until he met his third child’s mother, fell very much in love with her, but he is his father’s son, so he wasn’t entirely faithful to her, which is why they split up shortly after she found out she was pregnant.”
If this new love affair is true it means that Michael abandoned Lisa-Marie the second time, poor girl, and this explains her fury and vicious attacks against him in the years to come. This second split sent Lisa-Marie into a series of affairs with various men which started in 1999 and took her through two more quick relationships until she finally vented all her anger at Michael in her album “To whom it may concern” released in April 2002.
Wiki says that Lisa Marie quickly got herself engaged to someone in February 2000, or immediately after Michael fell in love with someone else, then broke off the engagement and married Nicolas Cage to be divorced from him three months later:
In May 1999, Presley met musician John Oszajca. They became engaged in February 2000, but Presley broke off the engagement in April 2001 after meeting Nicolas Cage at Johnny Ramone’s 52nd birthday party. Presley’s third marriage was to Cage. They were married on August 10, 2002, in an outdoor wedding at the Mauna Lani Bay Hotel on the Big Island of Hawaii. Cage had proposed just ten days earlier. He filed for divorce after 108 days of marriage, on November 25, 2002. The divorce was finalized on May 16, 2004. The divorce proceeding lasted longer than the marriage.
On April 8, 2003, Presley released her debut album, To Whom It May Concern. Presley wrote almost all the lyrics and co-wrote every melody.
Most of Lisa’s lyrics were angry and vehement, though some were not, and of course they can be attributed to Lisa-Marie’s experiences with men other than Jackson, though I doubt it:
- I’m no longer your erection, or your congregation, I’m your disease. You take the sun. You have your fun but you better beware. ["Better Beware"]
- You made me, I love you, And do you know that nothing has changed ["Nobody noticed"]
Despite all these lyrics she still had a lot of attachment for Michael. Even when she was married to Nicolas Cage, in the middle of 2002, she was fiercely protective of Michael and at the same time furious with him. It seems that Cage as her third husband simply fell a victim to all her fury over Jackson.
After watching a video of Michael with his son Blanket out of the window of a German hotel Lisa Marie and Nicolas Cage had a huge row over Michael:
Did The King destroy Lisa Marie’s marriage?
… Afterwards, Elvis’s only daughter [ ] had a furious row with Cage.
Nicolas, like most people, thought it a bizarre and careless thing to have done – the clumsy way Jackson held the baby, Prince Michael II, so precariously over a ledge, with a cloth thrown over its head.
However, Lisa Marie felt that Michael’s actions were not at all disturbing and maintained the incident had been blown out of proportion. ‘Michael would never hurt one of his children,’ Lisa Marie said. ‘It was the camera angle that made it look so dangerous.’
But, as she later recounted to one of her friends, Nicolas demanded to know why she was always so protective of Michael.
‘What is that about?’ he asked, trying to dig to the core of her feelings for her second husband. ‘I know you’re not still in love with the guy. Or are you?’
Six years after her divorce from him, Lisa Marie Presley does have strong feelings for Michael Jackson – though probably not of the romantic variety. She speaks to him often and visits him at his Neverland home in California at least once a month.
For Nicolas to even comment on the long-standing, albeit odd, relationship was not a good idea. Lisa Marie loathes it when others attempt to probe her psyche. ‘Stop trying to analyse me,’ she told him, angrily.
‘It went on from there, a disagreement about Lisa not wanting Nicolas to delve into the reasons for her friendship with Michael,’ said Monica Pastelle, a friend of Lisa Marie’s.
‘Throughout his relationship with her, Nicolas was always asking Lisa questions and trying to figure her out. I think, though, that he learned what many people already know: you can’t figure out Lisa Marie Presley.’
Two weeks after that row, Cage filed for divorce.
The lovestory of Lisa-Marie and Michael Jackson can take me forever, so let me tear myself away from it and get back to the letter where the author stated that in 1999 Michael fell in love with another woman.
Though all of us heard Michael’s official story that the third child was born from a surrogate mother, when you come to think of it, the “falling in love” version presented by the insider may be indeed a more correct one. And it is not only because it is the insider who is telling us this news, but because I also remember the blissful expression on Michael’s face when he first mentioned Blanket’s mother in Bashir’s documentary.
Even then, when I watched it for the first time, Michael’s initial reaction to Bashir’s question struck me as a dissonant note from everything he would later say about this woman – that it was a business agreement, that she was a surrogate mother and that he didn’t have a relationship with her.
His first reaction to a question about that relationship was much more tale-telling – he nodded with much determination and said a decisive “yes” to Bashir’s question. Later on Michael somewhat checked himself probably recalling that his words were going counter to his own official version of the story, but initially the reaction was different.
And this is what precious about it. Initially he gave a firm reply that he had been in a relationship with that woman, and was all smiles explaining that he couldn’t reveal her identity because she would be bombarded by papers and tabloids. She didn’t want it and he didn’t blame her for it. He talked about her at approx. 4.40 in the video below. Please note his happy smiles and the determination with which he says “yes” – and this way he is fully confirming what the insider has to tell us about Blanket’s mother:
However the next comment from the insider immediately following this news is not that easy.
Though his point about Michael not being entirely faithful to Blanket’s mother and him being “his father’s son” is fairly believable, the version that “they split up shortly after she found out that she was pregnant” does not stand up to any criticism. This course of the events runs counter to everything we’ve learned about Michael by now.
Michael would have never left a woman who was making a precious gift of a baby to him – at least during that period, so the most probable reason why he stayed away from her was his desire to hide her from all the media frenzy – for her own and her child’s safety. On the outside it looked like he had parted with her even despite her pregnancy, however knowing what we know about Michael such a scenario was simply out of the question.
Does it mean that the author made a mistake about that other woman and was wrong in what he was saying? No, all it means is that he interpreted this fact in a slightly wrong way, though the fact itself is perfectly correct. Michael was in love with that woman, was happy to have a baby by her, and surely took care of all birth preparations, but since he was totally unable to go into another marriage by then he preferred to turn it into a business arrangement and present her to the world as a surrogate mother. At times he himself forgot about the arrangement they had agreed about and gave himself away by true comments about her (like those he gave to Bashir), though generally he tried to adhere to the official version of the story.
I wish we knew who this woman is – after all Blanket does need a mother, doesn’t he?
For some reason Michael parted with that woman after the birth of their child – probably because she really didn’t want to get into the limelight, and this was impossible if she had stayed by his side. And he went for the “fish” in the ocean that was all his. No, he wasn’t turning into a replica of his father – he simply had to take care of his sexual needs in the circumstances he found himself in and another marriage was no longer fitting into the picture.
Quote 4 from the letter:
- “From that time, up until right before these new bullshit allegations broke, he was pretty much a dog. No attachment, just sex. He has no time to get attached to somebody and then depressed again after they part ways now that he has his children. I doubt he has time for anybody other than his children and his lawyers now”.
This is a very rough way of putting it, but it does look like the truth. A true relationship starts with an interest, goes on with a romance and a period of courtship when men usually stay at their best behavior with women and only then it progresses into love which may be difficult too as it involves a lot of adjustment to one another. However with his busy legal life and three children on his hands Michael absolutely had no time for any form of a “relationship”. He spent all his time on his children, his music and a horde of lawyers who were to be paid in order to look into the incredible number of lawsuits he had to face.
Actually Michael was so busy with lawsuits that the author of the letter didn’t even include music into the sphere of Michael’s immediate interests at the time. To name only a few let us recall the suit from Evan Chandler’s for another $60 mln. filed some time in 1996 if I remember it right, and Michael’s own lawsuit against Daine Dimond and Gutierrez for $100 mln. in addition to all those 1000 plus lawsuits he had to handle during his whole life. All this was going on for months and years and was consuming lots of time and money which first had to be earned.
However Michael still had his sexual needs and hence the situations like those witnessed by Frank Cascio:
Sometimes Michael invited members of his fan clubs to Neverland, and he occasionally formed a special relationship with one of the women. One time I was driving Michael into town. Someone was next to me in the passenger seat of the Bentley, and Michael was in the backseat, kissing one of his fans.
“Easy back there,” I said. “Relax, calm down.”
“Just keep driving,” Michael said, in a joking way. “Don’t worry about it, just keep driving.”
Michael’s dalliances with fans were infrequent, and discreet, but they were hardly unheard of. He tended to like tall, slender women whom I’d describe as nerdy in a sexy way. Once, in London, I was in his suite when he brought a friend he’d known for years into his bedroom. They were in there for about an hour, and when he emerged, his pants were unbuttoned. I smirked at him.
“Shut up, Frank,” he said, smiling sheepishly. The woman, equally sheepish, said good-bye and left.
Around this time, Michael had another friend—I’ll call her Emily —who visited the ranch regularly. She was a nice, cute girl, slender, with brown hair, in her early to midthirties. Emily didn’t want or need anything from Michael. They just liked spending time together —talking, walking around, hanging out in his bedroom. It was a romantic relationship, but as far as I know, he didn’t tell anyone about Emily but me. Michael kept her a secret—she didn’t stay in his room because he didn’t want her to be seen coming out in the morning—and even I didn’t see real evidence of the romance. That’s how I knew he was telling the truth. He wouldn’t have been so secretive if he hadn’t had something he wanted to hide. That was the longest relationship I saw Michael have: Emily was at the ranch frequently over the course of about a year.
…Every so often, fans were allowed to visit Michael in his hotel room. We called the girls fish—because there were lots of fish in the sea—and we called the most aggressive ones barracudas. We’d fight over them, joking about which girl was for him and who was for me. I’d say, “Let’s be realistic, you’re just the decoy.” That’s why on the Invincible album notes when he thanked me he wrote, “Stop fishing.”
The Invincible album reminds us of a notable scene during the album promotion campaign when Michael openly flirted with women who came up to him for an autograph. First Michael fell all over a blond girl who later became his friend (Jovanna, if I remember it right). Frank Cascio who was sitting by his side doubled up with laughter and hid himself behind a journal when he saw Michael fussing over that girl and making arrangements for bodyguards to take her telephone number by all means.
And some time after that episode one more Michael’s associate made a tell-all remark when Michael fiddled with another girl. After all the embraces with her the man sitting on the other side of Michael said something like ‘I see somethin sticking out’ to which Michael immediately reacted: ‘Nastyyyy’ .
The scene is an interesting insight into what men do and say when women are not looking, and is really much fun. However what is most important to us is that all this banter over girls falls very much in line with the picture our insider painted of that period of Michael’s life. See for yourself:
Frank Cascio says that despite all those frivolities with girls when it came to his children Michael immediately assumed a serious role of a parent, so I can hardly imagine that any of them would have ever witnessed any of his flirting with women. Frank Cascio was amazed by how easily Michael could change from a baffoon he someone was into a caring and attentive father:
It never ceased to amaze me how easily he could change from a water balloon fighter to a pop music star to a caring, attentive father. It was a transition that, even now, I find hard to explain, but it was one that he did every day with ease.
…At night, when all the visitors had left, Michael would take his kids on twilight walks around Neverland. It was touching to see Prince and Paris walking on either side of him, their little hands in his. Michael would point out a bird or a duck while Prince occasionally scrambled ahead like a puppy and Paris stayed next to her dad, a demure little lady. Michael seized any opportunity that arose to teach the children life lessons. If they saw a deer, or another animal, he would tell them about its life and its habits while they stood watching it. The sky, the grass, a tree: Michael saw the value of every detail of his surroundings and introduced each to his children. He wanted them to love what was around them and not take the wonders of creation for granted.
… Michael as a father made much more sense to me than Michael as a husband. Maybe being with Lisa, loving her children, and wanting to have a child with her had made him see that he was now ready to raise his own children. Much as Michael acted like a child at times, the truth was that he was a grown man, and he always cared for the children in his life the way a responsible father would do. For years he’d had hands-on experience with me, my brothers, and my sister, and over the course of our long friendship I’d watched him part-time parent all of my younger siblings. His instincts were excellent: he knew how to listen to kids and his patience with them was infinite. In addition, he researched parenting the way he did his other passions—through books. In our many trips to bookstores, Michael always stocked up on titles about parenting and child-rearing. He was determined to be the best father he could possibly be and sought to understand the psychology of children and the meaning of their interactions with their parents.
Michael’s care for every element of his baby’s experience began the moment his son was conceived. He knew, before the baby was born, that he was going to name him Prince. He said that the name had run in his family for generations. Michael taped himself saying, “Prince, I am your father. I love you, Prince. I love you, Prince. You are wonderful. I love you.” He also recorded himself reading children’s books and classic novels, like Moby-Dick and A Tale of Two Cities. At night, Debbie would put earphones to her belly or play the tapes aloud so that when the baby was born, Michael’s voice would be familiar to him.
Prince was born on February 13, 1997.
… All of Michael’s plans at this time revolved around his child: he didn’t believe a baby should be dragged from city to city, so he set Prince up in Paris, a central location in terms of the tour’s itinerary, with two nannies to care for him day and night. Each night after he finished his concert, Michael flew back to his apartment on the Champs-Elysees by private jet. Whenever he wasn’t performing, he was with Prince. It was a tough schedule, but Michael was trying to be both a father and a mother to his son. My mother, my brothers Aldo and Dominic, and my sister, Marie Nicole, accompanied Michael for the majority of the HIStory tour, along with Prince and the nannies. Eddie and I couldn’t leave high school, but we escaped for long enough to meet the baby at Disneyland Paris.
In the hotel, as he would wherever they traveled, Michael made sure to create a stress-free, stimulating environment for the baby. My mother remembers that there was always beautiful harp music playing and that she, Michael, and the nannies read to Prince from the day he was born. I was happy to hold the new bundle. He slept in my arms, as babies always do.
… As I’d discovered at the age of five, Michael had no trouble connecting with children. He had an innate ability to see the world through a child’s eyes, and he didn’t have to change at all to become the kind of father he wanted to be. His heart and mind had long been committed to the challenge. Once Prince was born, Michael wanted another child almost immediately, so the two of them could grow up together. Five months after Prince was born, he and Debbie arranged another pregnancy.
…Michael was a great father. People can say what they will about his life and his choices, but nobody will ever take that away from him. He loved his children deeply. He fed them, changed their diapers, held them, spoke to them. Michael didn’t believe in baby talk. “Speak to children as if they’re adults,” he said. “Trust me, they understand. And it’s better to train them to speak properly from the start.”
Yes, Michael was indeed a great father and nobody will ever take that away from him. As to women the circumstances made Michael go through several stages many man probably experience, only to him it happened in a much more intense and concentrated form.
He started with the worst of women in his childhood and witnessed the dirtiest way women can be treated too. This made him look for women with a purity streak to them and taught him to be gentle towards them as he promised himself that at least he would behave like a gentleman should.
Then he tried hard to make his two marriages work (even with Debbie he wore a ring as if saying to others, “Girls, stay off me now, I have a family of my own”), but after a number of disasters and due to loss of emotional strength and a mere lack of time he finally progressed to looking at women as fish in the sea where there were so many of them available to him that it made almost no difference…
This we get from both the insider’s and Frank Cascio’s accounts, but in addition to all that there was an observation from Frank that made me realize that there was one more reason for Michael eventually treating women in so perfunctory a manner.
Frank said that after the disaster with the Chandlers Michael lost his faith in people and the “fundamental decency of his fellow humans”.
Just think of it. Michael lost his faith in the fundamental decency of his fellow humans. It is so well said. And sounds so true. And is so difficult to live with…
Who were those people who brought Michael into that state of total devastation?
It was Evan Chandler and possibly his son Jordan.
But it was also a woman, June Chandler who, according to our author, was involved in that 1993 business even more than Jordan was. She could have told the truth about her affair with Michael and could have spoken up for him, but she preferred not to and sided with the accusers instead. Her personal betrayal of Michael adds a new color to the 1993 case, and now we can surely say that June Chandler put her hand to turning Michael into a different man – a man who became a far cry from his former self after meeting with that family.
He probably forgave her realising that she was also caught up in the circumstances, and had to surrender to Evan’s pressure, but no matter how you look at it, Michael’s sincere attempt to form a relationship with a woman was destroyed in the very bud of it. The Chandler catastrophe was followed by a deceit from Lisa-Marie who promised him children and never lived up to her promises, and these two huge blows taken together were the factors which among other things finally crushed Michael’s faith in his fellow humans. And it seems that women were one of the first to contribute to it.
Imagine that one woman you love accuses you of child abuse (knowing that it is not true) and the next one cheats you in something which is the most sensitive thing to you? Anyone will turn cynical after that…
Only Debbie restored some of Michael’s belief in the decency of people, and we should be infinetely grateful to her for that (in addition to bearing him children and making his dreams come true at last), however her case wasn’t very helpful in terms of love as she was more of a friend to Michael while he was infatuated with someone else.
Here is the excerpt from Frank Cascio’s book where he says that after the Chandlers’ case Michael was no longer the same man. June and Jordan Chandler should know what they did to Michael:
After the purity and genuineness of Michael’s love for children was called into question, he became a different man. Inevitably, his relationships with children changed forever. The days of the innocent freedom with which he’d played with kids were gone for good. In addition, he now saw what a target he had become for people who were looking to exploit his eccentricities for cruel and selfish ends. Family excluded, he stopped hanging out with kids in the same way as he’d done before. It wasn’t worth the risk.
Beyond this, if I had to sum up the change I saw, I’d say that Michael lost his confidence. Not just in himself—the way he would boldly and without a second thought do whatever he felt like doing, no matter how unconventional or immature it might have seemed— but in others as well.
He lost his faith in the fundamental decency of his fellow humans. Where once he had seen only the good in people, now he worried about the intentions of those around him. He questioned their motives. He thought everyone around him was trying to take advantage of him, to manipulate him. That hint of paranoia he’d expressed when it came to other people stealing his musical ideas started spreading to other areas of his life. Sometimes, even if he encountered someone whose intentions were good and sincere, he’d look for reasons to doubt that person. He created scenarios in his head that didn’t exist in reality as a way of guaranteeing that he would again never be caught off guard. My family, however, was exempt from Michael’s escalating paranoia. Eddie and I were innocent kids, and his faith in our parents never wavered.
….I know that the argument for settling out of court with the Chandler family made a certain amount of sense, but I have to say that as incredible a lawyer as Johnnie Cochran was, I don’t think he should have settled that case. Michael was never the same after it. Not fighting for the truth took a heavy toll on him. He was the biggest star in the whole world. The unresolved accusations cast a shadow on his character. They damaged his reputation. They threatened his legacy. And they wounded his soul. From then on, people wouldn’t know what to believe about Michael Jackson. Above all, they challenged his love for children—something that was central to his being—and that hurt far more than the media circus that had been stirred up by the accusations.
… He’d said, “I have rhinoceros skin. I’m stronger than all of them,” but Eddie and I could see the truth behind the bravado. The accusations that Jordy’s father had leveled against Michael were a source of unrelenting anxiety to him. At night he would sometimes vent: “I don’t think you realize” —and we certainly didn’t— “I have the whole world thinking I’m a child molester. You don’t know what it feels like to be falsely accused, to be called ‘Wacko Jacko.’ Day in and day out, I have to get up on that stage and perform, pretending everything is perfect. I give everything I have, I give the performance that everyone wants to see.
Meanwhile, my character and reputation are under constant attack. When I step off that stage, people look at me as if I were a criminal.”
The only ones Michael still believed after the Chandler disaster were children whose purity and integrity he didn’t doubt. Even the example of Jordan Chandler didn’t waver him in his views on the innocence of children as he still thought that youngsters depend on their parents and may be too susceptible to their influence. Frank says that children for Michael remained the embodiment of purity and God, and this helped him to still have some hope and survive:
As far as what was going on with Jordy’s family, we only talked to Michael about it when he brought it up. When he did speak about it, it was often in a wistful tone, and I could tell that he was still trying to comprehend the fact that this horrible thing had occurred.
“I did so much for his family,” he’d say.
I would almost always respond with anger, saying things like “I just don’t understand how he could do such a thing.”
“You don’t understand,” Michael would reply. “I don’t blame Jordy. It’s not his fault. It’s his father’s fault.”
Michael forgave Jordy. He knew that a child wouldn’t come at him and ruthlessly attack him of his own volition. He believed it all came from the father. Later, when I was older, Michael would tell me that Jordy’s father had wanted Michael to invest in a film he wanted to make. Michael initially liked the idea, but his advisers were against it. They dismissed Jordy’s father rather thoughtlessly, and Michael, not one for confrontation, blew him off, too. Michael thought that this, more than anything else, had set Evan Chandler off.
… I want to be precise and clear, on the record, so that everyone can read and understand: Michael’s love for children was innocent, and it was profoundly misunderstood. People seemed to have trouble accepting all the good qualities of this incredible man, and were always asking how it could be that he was the greatest singer on earth, the greatest dancer on earth, and yet enjoy hanging around with children all day? How could he write and perform such explosively sexual, complex songs, and then have nothing but harmless interactions with the kids with whom he surrounded himself? How could he have so many idiosyncrasies that seemed weird to the outside observer—the plastic surgery, the bizarre purchases, the secrecy—and then not be “weird” in other, more offensive ways?
Yes, Michael had different personas. The same way I myself became a different person depending on whether I was home with my family, traveling with Michael, or back in school in New Jersey. The same way we all put on different faces for dealing with different parts of our lives. If Michael’s different images seemed extreme, it was only because his life was more extreme than anyone else’s. For all the hard work he’d put in during his own childhood, for all the perfectionism that drove his music, Michael craved the simplicity and innocence of the youth he had never fully experienced. He revered it, he treasured it, and, especially through Neverland, he tried to offer it to others. People had trouble understanding all this, and many assumed the worst.
This misunderstanding was the greatest sorrow of Michael’s life. He carried it with him to the end. I am here to say that I knew the real Michael Jackson. I knew him throughout my childhood. In all that time, he never showed himself to be anything but a perfect friend. Never did he make a questionable advance or a sexual remark. My parents were older and wiser than my brother or I. If anything, their perspective was broader and more encompassing than ours. And they trusted Michael implicitly.
… During the Dangerous tour, Michael had made a point of visiting orphanages and children’s hospitals. In every city we visited, we brought toys to these children, and it was clear that Michael wished he could adopt them all. He could not stand to see a child suffer. There were times during those visits when Michael would break down crying because he couldn’t stand seeing a child in pain. He was moved and inspired by the innocence and purity of youth, and always said that of all the creatures in the world, children were closest to God.
Well, Michael didn’t yet know what some children were going to say about him very soon after that, the next year after the insider’s letter was published. We can imagine how greatly Michael’s disillusion with people deepened after he listened day in, day out to what the Arvizo kids and other crooks had to say about him…
I am sorry that the post has deviated from the man subject – it just happened this way. However there is still a lot to say about the insider’s letter, so let’s leave the rest of it until next time, okay?
Let us also remember that up till now the author of the letter has been correct in all his observations about Michael and his women.