HELENA’s page

October 13, 2010

Guys, there are some issues which are considered by many as not related to Michael Jackson’s vindication but which are nevertheless raised again and again here (even despite my will) – so I’m making a separate page for myself where anyone who disagrees with my approach to some matters can challenge me directly with no damage to the rest of the blog.

The problem which caused much controversy was my mentioning homosexuality in connection with pedophilia. It seems that both my correspondent and I did not quite understand what we were talking about, so I am placing our correspondence with him in this page for everyone to see what it’s all about.

The reader’s letter is actually very good so I hope he doesn’t mind it that I’m bringing it into the open discussion. Also you shouldn’t be surprised that these matters are raised within Michael Jackson’s vindication blog – and if you have patience to read it to the end you will probably understand what I mean.

Helena, I just read your comments about me on your blog and I feel that I need to clear up something.

I am not one of those people advocating pedophilia.  I agree with much of the world that pedophilia is a serious and unnatural mental illness, not to mention a crime against humanity.  I am repulsed at the idea of adults taking advantage of innocent children in that manner; they are at complete opposite ends of the spectrum in terms of development, and any such relationship would be like fire and water.

I wish to assure you that that is not what I am advocating.  As an adult, I cannot fathom in any way, shape, or form how any adult could be attracted to children in that manner.  I think that any organization that promotes such an agenda should be burned to the ground, and that any pedophile should be castrated.

What I am advocating for is that young people should have the right to be able to accept themselves for who they are and to be true to themselves, without being bullied and harassed, which could lead to self-hatred and eventual suicide.  More and more young people are identifying who they are as pre-teens and should receive the best support and nurturing in terms of whatever orientation they are so that they can grow up to be healthy, well-adjusted adults, as I am now.

I wanted you to know that you and I are on the same exact page in terms of our views of pedophilia.  As for homosexuality, that is another ball game entirely.

I should also let you know that this whole fiasco, beginning with the multiple suicides and culminating in your last e-mail to me (as well as your comments about me on your blog), has put me into a state of depression that has lasted all weekend.  Luckily, I am working my way out of it now, but I want you to know how dangerous your ignorance, intolerance, and insensitivity can really be, especially to people like me on the Autism spectrum, who automatically soak everything up like a sponge and take things deeply to heart.

Dear ……..

Thank you for your letter. It is no longer an explosive “How dare you” leaflet but is a clear statement of how you think and feel about ped-lia. You deserve the same approach from me so here is what I have to say.

I am sorry that I thought your letters could be the beginning of a ped-le attack on the blog. There have been numerous attempts to undermine us and it was always done in a covert way which made me think it could be another of those cases. It was evidently a coincidence that you wrote to me exactly at the time when we returned to the problem of ped-lia.

I am happy to hear that you feel so strongly against it. It gives me hope that gays will be in the forefront of the struggle against this menace as their own good image fully depends on how they position themselves on this issue.

I think that the best way to jointly fight the so-called man-boy love is to never agree to lower the age of consent for boys and probably raise it across the world by several years independent of the country (in some countries it is age 14 which is extremely low). Such an act will imply that no matter at what age teenagers identify themselves as gays – the first signs of which may indeed appear in their adolescence – their sexual relationships should not start until they reach a certain age, and everyone should accept this restriction willingly as there is simply no other way to go about it than that.

You understand that the present attitude to a 14-year old boy as both an adult and a child depending on the country introduces very much controversy into the problem as what is legitimate in one place is a horrible crime in another – so the best way to deal with it is to raise the age limit everywhere and thus do away with at least one of the problems.

A universally accepted high age limit for gay sex may be only for the better – if gay people are ready for a serious relationship it would be no problem for them to wait another couple of years before such a relationship starts. Knowing that homosexuality is accepted as such, but is not accepted until a certain age will make a lot of things much easier for all of us – some of the hysteria around it will subside and many problems related to it will just take care of themselves.

Youngsters will be given more time to realize their sexual identity, come to terms with it or revise it if their heterosexual side takes over, their parents will be given time to learn ways to accept it if the decision is final, and global enthusiasm over starting sex at an early age (even ‘usual’ way) will be checked too. I am afraid that all the gender chaos we are going through now is because sex freely starts at an unnaturally early age, so that by the age of 15 youngsters – who have tried everything there is to try in sex -  are already tired of it and want something ‘new’.

Given that sex is actually a very intimate thing the fact that we’ve allowed it to be so commonplace, so accessible, so open for comparison and mockery by young and immature minds (in case of sex failures) has become a sure way to deprive sex of all its divinity – yes, divinity.

The almost 4000 year old ethical system of Zoroastrianism I adhere to says that sex is a divine act. I actually feel it in an absolutely natural way without anyone telling me, that is why the Zoroastrian ethics stuck to me so easily when I  happened to study it. And easily fused with my Christianity too (my nationality has nothing to do with it as I am a very rare bird even among my own people).

From the ‘old-fashioned’ way Michael Jackson behaved I have reasons to believe that he, as a true believer in God, also felt that sex is divine and that is why when he touched the hand of a girl he loved it was like fireworks going off for him.

Very few people can boast such an acuteness of sensation which first and foremost speaks to a person’s innocence – and the rarity and even archaism of such a feeling seems to me the root of all this sexual chaos and controversy we are facing now.

Increasing homosexuality is probably a way for the nature to backfire on us for our complete loss of this sense of divinity (not only in sex but life in general), and this makes the problem of homosexuality not the intimate problem of one particular teenager hit by it – no, it turns into a gigantic problem concerning all of us and taking its root in our total loss of contact with the divine spirit.

If we look at both ends of the reason> result sequence skipping all the intermediate steps in between, the conclusion will be that the unfortunate people who have been afflicted by homosexuality are actually the victims of the world as such which has lost all respect for God and true religion en masse. By religion I don’t mean rituals – genuine religion for me is an understanding that there is a much bigger power than we are which has brought us into this world, is capable to terminate our life any minute and thanks to which you and I are still living at this particular moment of time.

In short it is the power so crucial to us that if we don’t adhere to its ethical laws we as the world will be doomed to extinction.

Now you will probably realize that it is not only you who have reasons to be depressed  – people like me find the situation equally painful because we realize only too well that we as a whole are responsible for what happened to you. And if we don’t do something about it now the infectious process will go on and none of us will be immune to its influence.

However Zoroastrianism says that the border between the light and dark, innocent and corrupt,  wholesome and sick sides of human nature is going inside each particular human being and it is within our power to shift it in either of the directions. To shift it towards returning to one’s innocence requires very much effort but it is nevertheless possible. During some global disasters the spirit of many people undergoes immediate changes on a mass scale due to reconsideration of their former values (what was valuable before is no longer valid now) and this is when the whole nature is recovering a little bit through such individual changes for the better which undergo in each man. This is probably why such disasters have become so common lately and they may very well stop if we clean our spirits ourselves without further hints from the above.

Zoroastrians believe that we come into the world to be the co-workers of the Absolute power and are therefore capable to make a change, but only if we preserve our childlike purity and don’t allow our divine spirit as a particle of the Absolute to be stamped out from our souls. From this point of view this power is predominantly inside us -  though it is also everywhere – and it is a power so big that if we approach it for help it can change anything.

The world is ill and needs recovery and I practically had no hope it would ever happen. But as I am writing this and simultaneously watching TV and the Chilean minors being taken up one after another from deep inside the earth, embracing their wives and children and saying that love is everything, and that they faced both devil and God and God has won, it feels almost like the world is being reborn in front of your eyes.

October 14, 2010

Isn’t it amazing that right at the time when we are looking into the deeds of one despicable creature of a man, a Chilean Victor Gutierrez, who is showing us the deepest lows to which a human being can possibly fall, other Chileans are demonstrating to us the very best a human being is ever capable of?

Not being able to find a proper word for it can I call it just human splendor? The greatness of human spirit and its immense strength? Triumph of humaneness? The valor and staunchness of both those who were trapped inside and those who were free on the outside? The miracle human beings are capable of when they are really together? The infinite power of Love and Hope?

They were still looking for the missing minors seventeen days after all contact with them had been lost! Anyone in their place would have given up long ago and the poor men would have died there just of thirst and hunger – but no, they were still drilling hoping to find someone alive and they won.

Amazing.

If there are any Chileans here let me send my biggest congratulations to them and their country. It is a fantastic victory and a huge encouragement to us all. You’ve shown human beings at their very best.

And you’ve shown us that anything is possible for a human being if he really wants it.