WHO IS MAKING EXCUSES HERE?
This is a short question and answer piece which I decided to turn into a separate post not to interfere in the great discussion taking place in the comments section now. The questions were asked by someone skeptical about Michael’s innocence:
In fact, have you ever thought what if Michael did molest this child?
I have. I had been thinking that way for many years until he died. When those dark rumors reached my part of the world I didn’t take the trouble to look in the matter closely and thought that “there could be no smoke without fire” and “if everybody were saying that all of them couldn’t be wrong”. It was only when I started reading about Michael after his death that I realized my terrible mistake – and the pain of the resulting awakening was simply unbearable. That is why I started this blog – to repay Michael for all the wrong I personally did to him.
But your lack of objectivity shows more and more in every article you write.
I have been absolutely on Michael’s side since the very beginning – just look up the title of the blog. However I was under the impression that the majority of people didn’t know the truth about Michael same as I didn’t and as soon as they learn it they will be horrified same as I was and will immediately repent for the terrible injustice they did to him – same as I am doing it now.
To provide the truth about the matter (objective or non-objective is not the right word – the truth is absolute in its essence) I looked into every minor detail of Jordan’s accusations to check the validity of its every little piece. I found NOTHING to support his claims as my three parts of “All you wanted to know about it…” show it.
What you’ve noticed as a change of my attitude is no loss of objectivity – it is my loss of patience with Michael’s doubters and increasing surprise that after reading about the results of my and other people’s research there might still be people who are still finding fault with Michael and suspect him of molestation.
Jordan’s case was the most serious one, so I gave it a very thorough look and among other things found that his description of Michael’s “private parts” (which is the basis of his allegations) did not have a leg to stand on. After discovering the truth and writing about it I naturally thought the subject closed and already thrown away into a wastepaper basket.
But to my complete amazement here we go again – with a question already asked and answered a hundred times here:
What if Evan really believed that Michael molested his child?
Well, he did, as I myself came to such a conclusion – so what of it?
If your child had slept in the same bed as Michael and he later says he was molested by him – then would you believe him or would you believe Michael?
NONE of the children said to their parents that they had been molested – all the allegations came after someone had ‘worked’ on those children. Even Jordan repeatedly refused to say so until he was brainwashed by his father or was subjected by him to that sodium amytal procedure Evan Chandler himself was talking about. If someone tried to alter my mind by giving me a drug I really wouldn’t know whether I could believe even myself after that.
There are also facts that support the possibility that there was wrong doing. Sleeping in the same bed is one of them.
Do you have anything else besides that? I also know that your dog is sleeping in the foot of your bed every night, so what of it?
Whether this was completely innocent is irrelevant – if you choose to share your bed with a child after being accused several times– then you have to live with the consequences.
Your innocent sleep with the dog is irrelevant? Even if your wife/husband and other family members say it was perfectly OK and they never saw anything bad? Will it still be my, your neighbor’s or anyone else’s business whether your dog sleeps in your bed or it doesn’t? Especially if you have a special guard who always stays besides you to see what’s happening – like Frank Cascio who always slept in Michael’s room after 1993 if there was a child there (actually to protect Michael from any allegations)?
And how dare you be adamant that a dog in your bed is none of my business? Of course it is! Have you slept with a dog or not? You have? So face all the consequences if you did…
You keep giving weak excuses as to why Michael continued to share his bed.
I don’t know whether weak or strong, but it is exactly excuses that I am not giving here. Michael does not need any excuses, same as you do not need excuses for sleeping with your dog. What I am really trying to do – besides sorting out all those crazy allegations against him – is trying to UNDERSTAND him. Understanding others is a very useful thing in general because misinterpreting other people’s motives has never been good for finding common language with anyone at all.
However in Michael’s case no one ever tried to understand him. Everyone seems to have only claims to him as if he owes them an explanation for everything he did. In fact what I’ve noticed about all Michael’s detractors is that they’ve long forgotten how to mind their own business and lost all sense of reality about what is acceptable or unacceptable when it comes to interfering with other people’s lives. If someone thinks it is okay for a journalist (Diane Dimond) to show anyone’s underwear on TV and still remain credible in the eyes of the viewers I have no more questions to these people… good bye, darlings…. we are from different planets… there is no point in discussing things any longer.
You say that I am making excuses about Michael’s behavior? Actually I think the case is exactly the opposite – it’s you who are making excuses for many years of ruthless harassing Michael and finding fault with his ways. Since there is no evidence to be produced against him there is nothing else for you to do but express suspicions only – he SLEPT! he gave GIFTS! he INVITED them to his home! he provided things FREE! He ….he … what else…. what did we forget…
Is it your way of making excuses for the gross interference into another person’s life which was never any of your business? Are you trying to explain now that you had certain reasons for this outrageous behavior towards another human being? Do you also have a terrible sinking feeling that he was innocent after all and you need to say at least something in your defense? Do you begin to feel guilty for driving a healthy and strong young man to an untimely death? Are you afraid you’ll have to answer one day for what you have done to an innocent person?
And isn’t it because of this fear that you’ve been terribly wrong towards him that you are refusing to accept the truth about Michael’s innocence now?